What does Rehoboam’s story teach about choosing counsel?

Rehoboam had access to experienced counsel, but he rejected it because it challenged his ego. He chose advice from his peers that made him feel powerful, and the kingdom fractured. The warning is not merely to collect opinions, but to listen humbly when wisdom is uncomfortable.

How can I tell wise counsel from advice that only validates me?

Pastor Ken’s test is direction and fruit: wisdom is measured by where it leads, not by how it makes you feel. Wise counsel aligns with Scripture, produces humility and Christlike character, and moves people toward truth, reconciliation, and faithful action rather than pride or division.

What does Proverbs mean when it says a friend’s wounds can be trusted?

A faithful friend may say something painful because love cares about who you are becoming, not just how comfortable you feel. Honest correction is different from cruelty: it comes through trust, seeks your good, and stays committed to the relationship.

Why is triangulation harmful in Christian community?

Triangulation recruits third parties to validate one side instead of addressing the person involved. It can soothe hurt temporarily while delaying resolution and multiplying division. Healthy community speaks truth in love and pursues direct, honest reconciliation.

Does God’s love include correction?

Yes. The message points to Jesus, who comforts people and also calls them to humility, forgiveness, repentance, and faith. The gospel begins with the hard truth of sin, but Jesus does not leave sinners there—through the cross and resurrection, he makes a way home.